Let's just start of by saying I don't have much of a problem with gay people and I'm not being against them or anything I just need to know what to do.
Okay, so a while ago I broke up with a girl I had been dating (my mom knew it, knew her, and liked her) but then I dumped her. I didn't like her, and I never really did, I just dated her to make my friend jealous. (I was wrong and I've dealt with that) but then she wasn't out of my life like I wanted her, she would hang around me, and would claim to be like my best friend and she kept trying to get back together with me...and I didn't like that so I told her sorry I'm gay, I like boys, and I can't date you bye, which she bought (because being a cheerleader I already get teased about stuff like that but.) and then she was out of my life. But then she told her mom that I had a boyfriend and I that I had had sex numerous times with him, and had snuck him into my house all this crap....and then her mom told my mom and there was this big ordeal. She asked if it was true, and I said no, but she didn't believe me, she asked if I was gay, and thought I was lying to her....fianally she let me tell my side of the story and understood. Months went by and everything was good, and we didn't mention the situation but I still can't help think that she still thinks about it and believes I lied. Because, maybe it's justs me but it's been awkward kind of being around her after this whole situation. What should I do?
Also, im 14 a freshmen in higschool. Now after this whole situation, I'm homeschooled. I haven't talked to my exgirlfriend since. Any suggestions?
Update:Thank you! I know I was wrong lying to her about being gay I just wasn't thinking, I try to convince myself that she believes me and it works a while. But, I don't know. It's hard to find nice girls these days and I don't know if it's just cause I'm picky, but I just don't want to mess up again. Haha
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Sounds like a bit of a pickle you've got into, but also as though your ex-girlfriend overreacted a bit. Firstly I think it's important that you talk to your mum about the situation and confront her about her honest opinion. It is easy from your story to see why she might think you're gay, especially in a day and age where parents are more open to the idea that their children might go either way with their sexual orientation as it's more acceptable than when they were growing up. I'm no expert on being a parent or indeed of homosexuality, but I went through a similar situation myself where I used to joke about one of my best friends being my girlfriend, and my parents thought it got a bit beyond a joke. It's only now, 5 years later that I have a long term boyfriend that they've realised I'm straight. All I can suggest is that you either get back to High School and start dating again (in fact, sod dating, just make friends and enjoy your last few years of childhood, it goes so quickly), and when you're fed up with a girl, tell her the truth about why you're breaking up with her. Although it will hurt her at first, she'll respect your decision in the long-run. (I am speaking from experience from numerous messy break ups where the guy lied about why he broke up with me). Like I say, I'm no expert but I hope I helped :)
No offense but you said you were gay to someone. There really isn't any turning back from that. Because some gays say they are then take it back because they wanted to see how people would react. This might be how your mom sees it. There isn't anything you can do to change it. Eventually, I'm sure you will have a girlfriend and then she will know.
You are just being paranoid, don't worry about it, if your mom thinks that she will probably ask you and you can just say: "no, im not"
NEVER USE "IM GAY" AS AN EXCUSE
that's where u went wrong
If you don't want her around, the tell her exactly that. She will get the picture.
prove to your mom you are straight. find another girlfriend, and show affection to her infront of your mother. hold her, hug her, and kiss her around your mom.
You should really try your best to tell the truth.
Your biggest fall is saying that you are gay!
^^ Said it all.