I have talking to this guy online for almost 2 months and I enjoy talking to him. When we first started talking, I lied to him, were I live about my identity, my age and who I am. Everything that I told him was made up. I also sent him fake pics.i know we have no future together since i also lied about were I live. He lives in London and he is planning to move to America in a year were he thinks I live. I actually live in Canada
However, it progressed further than what I thought so we ended up talking every night. He always tell me that I am beautiful so I don’t know how he is going to react when he finds out that I am not the girl on the pic that I sent him. In fact, I look totally opposite from what she looks like. She has blonde hair and blue eyes but I have dark hair and dark eyes. This it the first time I ever did this to anyone and I am not going to do it again. I will be honest about who I am if I will ever chat with someone online again. Anyways, I decided to come clean to him but I am nervous since I don't know how is going to take the bad news. I haven't been online for 2 days so when I just logged in today, he left me a message asking why I have been online and he really missed me.
I busted in tears when I saw that message since I am planning to come clean to him tonight. I am going to hurt him and he doesn't deserve that.
How would you react?
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I wouldn't actually tell him the truth about yourself. Privacy is a big issue especially over the internet. I guess you should tell that isn't really who you are but don't say where you live and don't send real pictures either. And how do you know he's not a stalker or something? He could just say all those nice things to you but not actually mean it.
I'd be terrified in this situation and I'd come clean and you say you plan to. You weren't wrong to lie, though; you get all sorts of paedophile scum on the internet, and for all you know, he could still be one. If he's the real deal, though... well, you've been chatting all this time and he says he likes you, you can be reasonably sure he likes your personality, and with any luck he'll like the way you appear too. Don't be too worried.
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It's really too bad that you have such a low opinion of yourself that you had to pretend to be something you're not. In my opinion, I would simply send him an email and tell him that you lied. You can't really say that you didn't mean to hurt him, because you've always known that you eventually would, so just apologize and move on with your life.
Meeting people online is always tricky for just this reason... so many people lie about who they are. Now that you see the pain in can cause someone, hopefully you will never do it again. Also, the laws of Karma say "what goes around comes around." This means that at some point, you'll probably have someone do the same thing to you, so keep your eyes open and please be very, very careful.
Well, you probably should have come clean earlier, but I doubt that he'll be too taken aback.
Frankly, until I know someone pretty well, I don't tell them anything about me. I use a fake name, fake location, everything. It's entirely too easy for someone to look you up these days. Privacy is a real concern, so it always pays to be safe.
Anyway, just be honest about what happened. Don't try to excuse your actions, just give him the real reason behind it and come clean. Apologize and I bet he'll be just fine with it.
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