2 weeks ago i started dating a man from Germany. we went out on 3 dates (restaurants and the beach). he told me he was in the German special forces and tried to show me a place on his stomach where he was supposedly shot in the gulf war (it just looked like an appendix removal scar to me), and i didnt think anything of it.
he also said he was been divorced for 2 years now, but the ring impression and discoloration is still on his finger.
he says he is a millionaire and takes me to a beautiful house he just brought, but said the painters are currently inside working and we cant go in because it would disturb them and he didnt want to show me an unfinished house). We then went to a restaurant for lunch and he took my hand and declared that he had fallen in love with me (this was after 2 days of knowing eachother)
After those 3 dates i started backing off, not knowing what to think. He then called me in hysterics and said his best friend since school days has just been hit by a truck in a head on collision and left his wife and an unborn baby alone in this world and that he needed to come over to my house right away because he has no one else left in this world to talk to. i agreed and he spend the night.
2 days later he calls me and told me his car has been broken in to, all his money, his laptop and cell phone were gone and his stolen credit card has now been used to buy $2000 worth of goods. he called his bank in Germany and its going to take 3 days to get the cards back and can he come over and have dinner at my place because he has no food or money. i reluctantly agree and again he spends the night. i then notice the next morning his wallet is in his back pocket, so once again, this is another lie!
After that my intuition finally kicked in. god i feel like such a fool :((
Am i the victim of a pathological romantic liar and con artist?
Why would he go to all this trouble just to deceive me? im just a simple girl with a meager job and below average salary,
he is now calling and texting me 30 times a day asking me where i am and who i am with, his calls are getting angrier but no threats have been made yet.
should i go to the police? is there anything they can do as far as prosecuting a liar? or wait for things to die down on their own?
i would so greatly appreciate any advice you could give me.
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Yeah. He's a liar. And maybe a con artist as well. You can try calling the police and telling them he's harassing you. It may not be anything they'll respond to though. However, if he calls you and leaves any angry voice messages, you can use those to report him.
Are you answering the phone when he calls or ignoring him? Definitely ignore him if you aren't already.
Just read all of it, it's a little stupid, but just read it.
Go to a gym and find the biggest guys you can, at least three, tell them your problem and ask for help, have them go to your house and have 2 wait in your room and 1 wait by the door, invite the *** over and when he gets there let him in. Have the one guy that isn't in your room stand behind the door so he is covered, once you let him in have mr muscles close the door and have the other two come out from your room, stand back and let them do the rest. Only problem is he might get pissed and threaten you later. To avoid this, get the mafia or someone similar, they'll take care of him and you won't have to worry Cus ya know... He'll be dead.
I know it's kinda a stupid answer but that's what I would do.
Also if he touches you just stab him and tell the cops it was self defense
I have been called a liar from my former boss. She did also call me several other names like unorganized, sloppy, and she would always threaten with firing me. She was a 400 pound lady on a scooter who would always bust my chops. I was a cook at a blind center. I would serve her bagels with cream cheese every morning just like she asked me but she never appreciated it. Everybody there thought i was doing a great job except my boss. She ended up firing me after a year. Anyway to answer your question it sucks when your boss calls you a liar because you know your days at your job may soon be coming to an end!!!
Get away from this freak. If he's beginning to threaten you, then you could be in danger. The excessive texts could mean that he's starting to obsess over you. Not to mention the lies he's been telling you. Lies that made you feel pity for him and accept him into your home. Try a calm approach first, tell him he's scaring you and he needs to back off. If he persists then bring it to the police.
A person could still be robbed,and have the wallet left behind.
So this is not necessarily a lie.
You need to have a resolution with him so you both can have peace of mind.
he is creating his own anger on puropse. anger is all some sociopaths can feel, but its repressed, and all tucked away. if he can unconiouscly put himselfe in a situation whear the anger can be released. he is couniscously or uncousiouly creating a situation whear he can put his anger onto a victim, in this case you, so that he can feel somthing more than nothing. and this is the most dangerous type of human.
Get a restraint order on him
police, if anything they will tell him to back off, sounds like he may have issues, be careful with this scenario