Over the weekend I told my bestfriends daughter who her real dad was because she asked me and wanted the truth and had been lied to so much, granted her mother should have been the one to tell her. I have known this friend for 21 years and the daughter is 14, she is always sending her to my house because her new husband is a jerk and doesn't want her around his kids and she was just telling me last week that she needed her daughter to go live somewhere else. Now my bestfriend is angry at me, totally understandable, but saying that there is a reason people like me aren't mothers and never will be mothers, medically I can't conceive, and her new husband called my husbands work and told his boss' that he is doing cocaine in public. Do I really deserve all of this? Oh and I told my bestfriend right after it happened before she picked her daughter up.
Update:Bonita, man am I glad I didn't piss you off, my house being blown up? Well I wasn't going to mention this either but the azz that called my husband's work also beat up my dad years ago and sent him to the hospital (before they were married and I forgave him and invited him into my home when they decided to be together again) and he likes to slap his stepdaughter, what I should have done and might still do is call CPS but you are right, I should have told her that she needed to talk to her mom.
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You had good intentions but it wasn't your place to tell her. If these people are truly like this...why were they your friends in the first place? You should have just tried to convince your best friend that she needed to tell her daughter the truth, or that you couldn't be around her anymore. I feel for the daughter, but how would you feel if someone outside came into your personal family business? At least that poor girl knows now.
If this woman is a true bestfriend she would make up with you and tell you that she should have told her daughter and if this woman is a true best friend she wouldn't be dumping her child on you all the time and she is a bad woman saying that her daughter needs to find somewhere else to live that is just so so rude and I feel for the daughter. The mother must not like the daughter very much if she said that what a bitc*!! I say that you adopt the child. That "bestfriend" of yours needs to go get a life and dump the jerk o a husband.
People like u need to learn how to mind your own business who the hell do you think you are? You have some nerve sticking your 2 cents in. How could you do that to that little girl!? It sounds like she has enough to put up with. You call yourself a friend no correction u said BEST FRIEND! Your lucky all that happened was a call to your mans job cuz if you'd done some sh** like that 2 me I'd have blown up your house! Shes right about the mother thing your selfish and wanted to make yourself look good and didn't care who you hurt. There might b a good reason y she hadn't told her daughter, and she was dumb enough to trust u with a secret! If you'd have been a good frind you would have told her mother that shes asking question and that THEY needed to sit down and have a good conversation. But no MRS Gossip needed to spill the beans. And as far as you "BEST FRIEND'S" Man being an azz you just want readers to have a reason to not hate you and B on your side. A form of manipulation I dont think the smart reader buy it!
I think you need to reexamine your definition of best friend. Best friends don't kick you in the gut emotionally, they don't pawn their daughters off on you when they can't deal with their own problems, they don't gossip about you (you discuss issues that two mature adults) Your friend's new husband sounds like a loser who is going help bring her down along with her family. Unless you want the same thing to happen to you and your husband I'd check out of this "bestfriendship".