Help! I am not sure what to do! I have a 3 1/2 year old girl who still is not potty trained. Here are some loose details:
-I have offered giving her little toys and candy as a reward for using the potty but the newness wears off and she doesn't look forward to them anymore.
-When I tell her to go potty she is pretty good about peeing in it but doesn't poop in the potty (she has twice).
-Sometimes she is scared of the potty but she does not like her little potty either, she says it hurts her butt.
-When she wears underwear she gets upset when she pees and feels wet.
-Her speech is somewhat delayed, she is learning a lot of new words and can form sentences. She has a hard time sounding words out.
If this sounds like your little girl and you have any tips as to how to get her potty trained please let me know! Maybe if I take her pull ups away during the day and put her on a strict schedule things will change-I have to admit I haven't been the most diligent with this process so I may be a bit to blame. Any suggestions please do share!
Update:Thanks everyone! I really appreciate hearing from you-it's so nice to know I'm not alone! I get so frustrated seeing other kids her age fully potty trained and talking like they have a law degree. Thanks for the encouragement and for helping me feel normal-I am taking pull ups away starting today, I will keep you updated :)
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My daughter just turned three and we used goodnights diapers and also there is a website thunderfap.com and it has free samples and if u go to freebies for kids and scroll down there is a link for a free potty training kit from pampers and we got that and it has totally been working!!! i swear its free and i think theres a link for a free pack of goodnights (not the ones from walmart the other ones) I swear it works!!!
My daughter is 3 and half also, we just got her out of pull-ups and into panties. The first panties we used for her were the Gerber Potty training pants, the underwear is all cotton with an extra thickness in the middle section to catch a leak and if she does go pee she the underwear absorbs the pee instead of it going down her legs. I mean she will still feel the wetness because these pants are not diapers or pull ups. After she got tired of getting herself wet a couple times she just decided to use the potty. This took me about five days, and I do work a 12 hour job, so it can be done, your little girl will get it.
I know your pain. My son was almost 4 before I had him toilet trained, and my daughter just turned 3 last month and is still in pull-ups.
I felt like I tried everything with my son to no avail - until I decided I had had enough. With my son we came up with a date on the calender - a friday where there was a long weekend with no school on monday. That day was "No more pull-up day". We talked about it as the date approached and I think it helped me get mentally ready too. So we started on that day - and yes - it was a LOOOOONG weekend. He did better the first day then the second - making me think we were failing, but by the third day there started to be success - As you mentioned above with your daughter "When she wears underwear she gets upset when she pees and feels wet" - that is the key, and after my son wet himself numerous times he realized how much he didn't like it and since he knew there were 'no more pull-ups' - he better start using the bathroom. After about 3-4 days he was fulling trained with only a rare accident. Number 2 did take longer - another 3 months unfortunately but it did finally happen.
That's what I'm trying to do with my daughter, but with preschool hours etc, it's not working so well, so I plan to do this during her Fall break next month. The key is within us as well - that weekend was awful and did suck - you can't go anywhere and you deal with accident after accident sometimes. I kept a bag by our basement door and filled it up with the wet underwear and pants through the day and washed them in the evening - only to start again the next day. But I tell ya, going through 3- 4 days of hell in the end is worth it when they are finally trained. I hated every minute of it, but when all was said and done, I couldn't believe he was fully trained and I would do it again - and am about to. I've already tried some days with her underwear and the accidents bother her, but she still isn't catching on - and that's because I end up putting her back in a pull-up for some reason - we have to go somewhere, school, etc... So you really do have to plan to stay home for a long weekend and stick to absolutely NO pull-ups or diapers. Eventually they realize that darn - the pull-ups really are gone, I better go in the toilet.
Good Luck - It sucks, but it's worth it.
EDIT: I forgot to mention - both my son (now 6) and daughter are speech delayed as well - and I was told that speech delayment usually can mean delayment in potty training - no surprise there. But my son knew what to do - he was just lazy. Same with my daugther - she knows darn well at this point what to do. But if your used to a diaper catching it all for you and mommy cleaning you up - who wants to give that up? So in the end it does have to be OUR decision - mommy is no longer cleaning up after you - LOL
EDIT: I love when people answer the same thing that you have already written. As for whoever gave me a thumbs down - what is thumbs down about it? Seriously? I answered the question - I don't force or punish my kids for not going to the bathroom - I let her know what worked for my kid and it did work, and lots of other parents have done the same thing. Got to love how negative some people are...
get rid of the pull ups and go straight to underwear. it feels like a daiper and cnofuses them they think they can go pee. in underwear, if they pee, they are going to feel it right away.... stick to just underwear and be pateint.
Edit : I see the 1st answerer is having the same issue, note they also use pull ups - point proven. this can benefit her too , get rid of the pull ups and go to underwear