Hi I have some girl trouble going on at school at the moment and would really appreciate some help/advice. I'm new to Yahoo answers, so bare with me if I do something wrong.
There is this girl who is one of the hottest in my year but also got a really nice personality too(I am 15 by the way and in year 11). I used to talk to her quite confidently in lessons because I kind of assumed she was way way out of my league and we got on quite well to the point where I would say we were friends. Then on Saturday I went to a friends house for a party and she was there, and we both got quite drunk( I'd never before consumed a lot of alcohol so I am quite lightweight). There were a fair number of other girls there and once again by assuming she was way out of my league I talked to her a lot. A lot of drinks and doing stupid stuff later we were making out on the sofa(my fist real kiss). Afterwards I said bye to her and went home(where I was bombarded by messages from my mates saying how well id done and that I was a legend etc. lol).
On Monday back at school I got mixed messages. I only told a couple of my closest mates what happened, but others leaked it and now pretty much everyone knows. Some people said that she was trying to pretend it didn't happen, so I played along until it turned out she had told a couple of people and the story spread like wildfire. My first lesson with her was physics where she arranged her seat so she wasn't looking my way, talked and laughed about what happened in a short convo with one of my mates then preceded to ignore me for the entire 2 hours. Even when she said she needed help she asked several people around me but not me(when a week ago she asked me). Then on Tuesday she ignored me too although we exchanged awkward eye contact on several occasions. Today when I was sitting two seats in front of her she asked everyone in the row but me if she had a pen but not me. Then the guy next to her took the piss and said you forgot to ask ... for a pen. You get the picture
My problem is that after the party I thought oh well I got off with a hot girl, when I next see her I'm just going to say **** happens, lets carry on where we were before as friends. It never even crossed my mind that if she wanted a relationship. On Monday I was talking to one of her friends on Facebook who said that the girl thinks I'm hot but doesn't want a relationship right now. This shook me a little, and after not being able to talk to her I've found that I really do like her. It seems that before I sort of self-consciously convinced myself that I would never get her, so that I would never feel disappointed if I failed. Now that I did get with her, that has happened. Quite interesting Psychology I guess! But I really don't know what to do now?
I'm quite good looking(not being cocky) with nice dark brown hair, brown eyes, quite a nice face (apparently I have the cheekbones of a model) based on what other girls have said, and average height. I'm quite skinny as it runs through the family. Based on what other girls have said. I'm pretty smart, but not nerdy and I am quite popular at school although I'm friends with loads of boys and girls I can never quite break my way into the top pecking order, where she is(this might be quite significant). She has for a long time been in a on and off relationship with this other guy, and even at the party I had too ask her if she was still going out with him, as they still talk regularly(this may also be quite significant)
Please help I Don't know what to do. I like this girl but don't want to push her away by asking her out, as she has said she doesn't want a relationship. I would love to go out with her but would be happy if we remained friends, I just want to be with her in some way, but she's not talking to me so I doubt that's a possibility. I know this is a lot to read but would appreciate the help a great deal, with GCSEs coming up I could do with clearing my mind of this. Thanks :)
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girls always say something and mean another. she may like you but she doesn't want to weird you out or she might like you but she likes the other boy more. a time will come when they will no longer be on and off and they will have to be together or separate. when that happens you will have to be accepting of this. i know this sounds like it sucks but i got with a guy when i was drunk but i DID not like him and i ignored him after that (we had met for the first time when that happened tho). maybe she just wants friends with benefits because relationships are too complicated. the only way to tell is time. so wait a little and if things don't change it may be a good idea to move on. and who knows, maybe she''ll change her mind :) best of luck <3
Yahoo Answer tip: most people are too lazy to read novel-long questions; however, I took the time. I think you should just approach the girl, maybe not as public as in class but maybe in the hall. Tell her how you're feeling_ you didn't expect the other night to go anywhere, but you wouldn't mind if it did. Ask her what it did or didn't mean to her. Also might wanna mention that she's a good kisser if the conversation needs a more humerous tone. Other than that, my advice for you would be to not drink underage. Not only is it illegal, but it leads to complications like this. If a relationship with this girl doesn't work out, don't fret. You can definitely get with a girl who doesn't drink and doesn't have lingering exes.
You know when a thing like that happened to us it's either we will ignore the guy or just pretend that the thing did not happened. We girls are like that.
She was just shocked of what had happened. Just give her the time to get over it. She ignores you maybe because she was shy to face you.
If you think it's already ok for her to face you then confront her about that and your feelings. But not too directly. You should tell it little by little.. smoothly so that she won't be hesitant to talk to you.