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Wow, I definitely see your predicament. At 13, your parents are definitely still going to be ultra protective of who you date. If he is 16, can he drive? Maybe he can start meeting you at church or coming to other group events like that.

That will give you parents a chance to see what kind of guy he can and is willing to develop into. After that (and be sure you are honest with your parents and not sneaking out with him), hopefully your parents will see how responsible he is and be willing for you to go out with him.

I hope he really is true to his work and is the guy that you want him to be. Good luck!

It's encouraging that he's willing to quit smoking for you -- but has he done it yet? Or is he waiting until you are ready to reward him? You are awfully young to be even thinking about making out with him. Truly. And you might want to consider that he could land himself in some very deep legal trouble if he does, as it is illegal to have sex with a minor. And you are most definitely a minor.

My advice to you, which you won't like, is to cool it. Keep him as a friend, meet him at church, and be very open with your parents. Parents have a way of finding out about things, and if they discover that you have been sneaking around, or less than honest, or have 'forgotten' to mention him to them, they are going to be very upset. If this guy is on the up and up -- if he really means that he wants to start going to church and will give up smoking and isn't just looking to make out with you -- then he'll wait until you grow up, and your relationship will be all the sweeter for being based on friendship first.