My female best friend and I usually spend time together at the mall, movies, dinners, and wherever. We see each other everyday. When we are at the mall, movies, and anywhere we go, I usually hold her close to me. After 3 months, I have fallen in love with her. I didn't ask her to become my girlfriend. I have someone else in mind before I fell in love with her. I'm sure my best female friend has fallen in love with me also. I do not want to hurt her. I care so much about her (best female friend). The other girl I was after was giving me a definite signs that she likes me. What should I do? Should I pursue the girl that I was after or should I settle with my best female friend and make it official? I am 20 years old and the girl I am after is 19 years old, and my best female friend is 20 years old. What should I do? What would you do if you were me.
Update:the girl I am after, I know her for a couple of months already
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go for your female friend
Love is a strong word but considering she is your best friend I could honestly see that happen. Consider what you are looking for in a relationship. Are you thinking long term or short term happiness? Your best female friend may not love you in the romantic sense. You may want to ask. She hasn't really given you signs whereas this other girl has flirted with you. You have a mutual attraction for each other with this younger girl. With the words you have chosen, for example 'settle' it seems that you subconsciously don't want to stick with your best female friend and you want to see where this other girl takes you. Pursue the other girl. True friends will stick around. If things don't work with this other girl, your friend should still be there. Good luck. Also remember you can take time to see if you really have feelings for which ever girl and not make a choice right this very moment.
In my opinion, it depends on the kind of relationship you are looking for. You are fairly young I think so if you are after the girl, and she likes you...then go for that. If you want something more serious then I would go for your best friend, even if you would risk jeopardizing the relationship. My best relationships are the ones that I've been best friends with and never thought twice about it...and the next thing I knew we had intimacy AND loving being around each other. However, if you want to make things easier...get to know both well...go with the one you like best. Too many regrets are made on ppl not taking risks because of friendships...sometimes those are the greatest relationships.
Mike
I say go for the best friend after all the best realtionships are the ones that come out of friendship and it sounds like you are already in to her so go for it and have fun
if i were you i would get a dictionary and look up the word shallow and try to get my face off of that definition. what does the word love mean to you. how can you say you love your best friend and your eying another girl all at the same time. what you need to do is get a new view of what love is
That's hard because if something goes wrong (ie - you date your best girl friend) you'll lose her forever. it's hard to be best friends w/someone and maintain a relationship after it's over. but then again i've heard of success stories of ppl who started off as best friends and couldn't be any happier.
Go out with your best friend, you already have a good thing going with her
Follow your heart, the relationships that last longest is the ones that u become friends first.
your best friend duh you prob. know her better then the other girl. so think of it this way lets say you pick the girl you were after then you dont like her now you friend is hurt and doesnt want to speak to you. or if you go for your friend and you two decide to go back to friend you can go with the other girl
If you can manage then handle both of them otherwise opt for your best friend.
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