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A mature person learns how to apologize.

It's part of being a grown-up....if you've done something wrong you own up to it.

Maybe this comes from how he was raised....if he wants to be a good spouse he should get some counseling to find out why he can't apologize before this comes between you.

I would be scared of the fact that I live with a man like this. I too had a relationship with a person that would do things and never say I'm sorry,he would try to buy his apology. He too, wasn't a bully, he just didn't know how to communicate. These kind of people, you CAN NOT change. You have to change, inorder to live with them. I use to always pray and ask God to change his ways. The more I prayed and told him how he was doing wrong, the more he tore my heart up. Then oneday, it hit me like a ton of bricks. If you want him to change, then you change the way you look at the situation. Instead of giving in to make him feel better, if it is something that you know you are right in, DO NOT LET HIM HAVE IT> DON'T GIVE IN. Speak your peace about it and keep going on with whatever you are doing. Don't let him see you getting upset, because you want him to do what is right. When he think he's got you pegged, switch it around on him and let him know this... I will say I'm sorry to you, because I now know that you are incapable of having emotions. Girl I have mastered the art of dealing with an emotionaless man. I'm so good at it, I can tell when he is ready to say ''SORRY'' so I turn up the heat. This cement emotion man, will wait until I'm sleep and try to hold me at night. If I move while he is trying to hold my hand, he pretend as if he is sleep. Stop being the one to make the 1st move, he will never learn how to treat you, if you keep doing it for him. No matter how long it take for him to react, tell him it is better than the pain you feel of being unloved.

You are not wrong. When you are married, both people should be willing to make things work. After an argument, both sides should be willing to apologize for whatever was said.

Communication is an important part (I think the most important) of a healthy marriage.

Maybe write down all your thoughts and give it to him in a note or card. This way he cannot interrupt, nor feel put on the spot. He can read and re-read your words at any time. Make "I" statements and not accusatory ones....give him time to think this thru.

You BOTH need to go to a marriage counselor. They will teach you that there are different ways of communicating...not all communication is verbal. Once you are aware of these differences it's much easier to manage your anger, resentment, hurt, etc. Remember marriage is NOT a one way street, both of you should be willing to work together, compromise together, make-up together.

your man probably learned this form his parents way of dealing with problem, more or less...and it sucks!

What it comes down to when someone has to be right is arrogance, ignorance and a big ego. He needs to develop some selflessless...maye through meditation or volunteer work...to get back in touch with his higher nature!

Get into counseling and learn to communicate with your husband. If he won't go then send him a letter from an attorney. He will show up.

good luck

looks like you 2 need marriage counseling.

You two need to see a counsellor. They can teach you how to argue. Sounds corny but it saved my marriage.

marriage is not about you gives in, its about compromise. you guys should try to attend some marriage counseling to see why he feels he does not need to compromise in your marriage.