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You talked about how good she treats her kids and grand kids, and they take and take and take. Well I think you could have part of your answer right there. I think she could have spoiled her kids when they were young and now she is paying the price. Kind of late to turn the tide this late in the game. When my kids were little, they knew we loved them, but the world did not revolve around them. Also, when my sons were little, before my birthday or Christmas, I used to take them to a very little gift shop that had great stuff for very tiny prices. I would walk with them through the store and point out items I liked (that would be in their price range), then wait outside while they would make a purchase. They were so excited to "surprise" me, and would bring it home and wrap it themselves. Now they are adults and think of doing things themselves. What they do isn't alway perfect, but I always thank them and never never critize them for what they do for me. On the other hand, I would never expect for them to throw me a party. I think she was wrong to make her husband cancel what he had planned, and she was wrong to get mad at her children. You do for your children because you want to, not because you expect to get something in return. Also, you only know what really goes on in her family either from the outside, or from her point of view. There could be more to it. What she does for her family could have come with strings, so although it could look good, it really wasn't. It is really hard to comment without knowing the whole truth (not just her view of it). She needs to be focusing on what she has, a loving husband, and not complaining about her kids. That could just drive them away further.

I am sorry that neither one of them received attention from the kids. I am not surprised though because it seems now that a lot of young adults don't respect their elders. I think some of the tv shows, a lot of people in society, weak jail terms etc there are so many reasons that I believe people don't give respect any more and it's sad. I think a lot of kids are so busy trying to survive in this world too that giving to family members is too much stress or too expensive. I am guessing maybe these kids were spoiled in early years or one of the parents was possibly disrespectful and the kids learned this, which really shouldn't be an excuse. I have heard a lot of elderly parents complaining that their kids just store junk at their house but don't take time to visit. I know one man who cut his kids out of his will. I think you should try to sit down with your kids and tell them how you felt and ask them why just out of curiosity did they do this.

she should know that the youth from today can care less, a lot of parents think that by giving their kids material things they gonna be grate full but the truth is that they won't if I was ever bless with a family 1 st I'm gonna tell them b4 they do anything to think like god, I'm gonna show then how lucky they are to even have parents and second parents that care. she lacked the ability to show them that life is not forever but love is and now she see what she did wrong...

you know, it was the choice of hers. if they both came to that agreement not to have a celebration, you cant change the past. if the kids dont visit then you have to let that go. if the couple is fed up and tired of the selfishness, from the children, let them learn to say no from now on to the childrens needs and requests. then order an in house massuese for them both at the same time, to pay back the misery they have suffered from this year.

her kids are being jerks. she should have been tougher when they were little perhaps. I'm sorry she is so upset I'm sorry her husband is ill. hopefully her kids will see the error in their way and make it up to her. but because it was fathers day doesn't mean they pay for a birthday. just supply presents for the two separate holidays to their parents. maybe buy a cake and cook a small meal for immediate family.

Please be careful, I've lost friends over giving advice about stuff like this. All you can really do is listen, support and encourage her. You have all that readily available to you to give to her in the love you have for her. Don't take sides, or say anything bad about her family. This kind of situation can explode in your face without you knowing why. So, I'm warning you about why ahead of time. Family is Family, no one can talk bad about them but me. That's a way of thought that's very prevalent. So be careful. Just love her. That's what she needs from you most.

Blessed Be

well she should'nt have done that in the first place but she should be the bigger person and apologize after all her husband is sick she could at least do that for him. and just take what is given to her. she doesnt know what else her kids had in store for the both of them!!!

She should have let her husband go ahead with the party, at least HE LOVES HER.