Well, i have been asking my parents for 2 years for a cellphone, and they kept saying no, and they said i really didnt need it. Well very recently i stopped asking so much, cuz i realized we didnt hav the money to keep up frivolous cellphone bills, and i acually DIDNT need it that much. Well you can imagine my suprise, when my parents bought me an EnV phone for christmas!!! Apparently, my mom persuaded by dad to buy me one. I'm happy and all, but i ALWAYS feel horribly guilty when someone buys me something expensive. My dad wouldnt tell me how much it costed, but the bills are like 50 $ a month, and i have a twin sister, and we BOTH got phones. I feel horrible. i feel like, because of my constant begging, they felt bad, and just caved, even though its so expensive. well, i never asked for an EnV, i just wanted a phone, but we wer at best buy once, and my dad was looking at an EnV, and i said a lot of people at my school had those. I ALWAYS feel like this when ppl buy....
Update:plus, my parents bought me a lot of exspensive clothes recently, so i decided i wasnt gonna ask for anything for christmas, except a few scented candles!! But they secretly bought me a phone now!!
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Just enjoy your new phone and don't feel so guilty,if your parents couldn't afford it or didn't want you to have it they wouldn't have got you one.
I don't know how old you are, but I'm assuming you're a teenager.
First of all, good for you! Not for getting a phone, not for feeling guilty--for being mature! For not being one of those whiny, entitled brats (I could name names from my own extended family... *sigh*) Anyway, look, I'm a mom--I know how mom-brains work. I doubt your begging made them cave--I personally, just file the info away in my head, then tune it out! If they're normal and not irresponsible with money, they've found a way to swing it. They may have gotten a deal, they may have funds you don't know about. Regardless, if you're a kid and not going to be held responsible for paying the bill, you have to trust them that they can cover it. And your dad's right to not tell you how much they cost--they're presents! He doesn't want you worrying about the money. If they didn't think you deserved it, you wouldn't have it. Trust me, most parents (especially those of us on a tight budget!) know better than to reward nagging well before the kid is old enough to talk on a phone!
Here's what you might consider doing, if you're seriously concerned about the money: FIRST--WAIT TIL THE HOLIDAY IS OVER!!! If you're a kid, you have only a vague idea how much planning and work has gone into this time of year--I know, I was once a kid, and am now on the planning side! If your mom is like me, she may have been picking up presents on sale all year and hiding them! If they have a Christmas fund, they may be seeing all your presents as 'that stuff that cost us $10 a week all year'. Come the actual day of--there's enough stress with just food and relatives, worrying about what you've forgot and whether or not the cat will eat the poinsetta (which BTW is poisonous...)--I'm typing this while taking my time-out, locked in my bedroom! WAIT A DAY OR TWO, then ask them if they'd explain the family budget to you. Explain to them that you're bothered--don't get all mellowdramatic on them, don't get demanding. Pick a time that's neither busy, nor when they're relaxing and don't want to think about bills. Maybe ask one or the other (which ever takes care of the bills) when a good time to talk about it would be. Explain to them that you want to be a responsible person and you're curious, if necessary, that it's you're not second-guessing or judging. Some parents don't want the kids to know about the finances because they don't want them to worry, others tell them so when they say 'no' to something, the kid doesn't feel all resentful and like they're just being arbitrarily denied. But sometimes we take that second route too far, and the kids over-worry. That sounds like what's going on with your family.
Basically, for now, relax and give yourself a pat on the back: you are officially Not A Jerk, and if I could trade my neice Angela for you, you'd be here now having pumpkin pie!
Merry Christmas.
Hey i know exactly how you feel. My parents got me an EnV for Christmas too because my whole family switched over to Verizon. Any time my parents spend a lot of money on me i feel terrible, especially because my dad lost his job recently.
But as I've gotten older i've realized that they know what they are doing. If they really coudln't afford it, then they wouldn't get it. The best thing to do is just show them that you are grateful and to appreciate all the things that your parents do for you.
Be happy you got a present at all.
My parents bought me alot this year, but my boyfriend "forgot" to get me anything.
How the hell can you forget to buy Christmas presents?
I feel the same way. My mom just got me a laptop for Xmas and i feel bad because of the price. If you feel so bad just tell your parents. they will understand and you will feel better
lol you are like the world's perfect daughter..
it's christmas, they WANT to give this to you... and you're not spoiled.. if your parents came home one day and said "hey, we got you a phone" and you just grabbed it and didn't feel bad... THAT would be spoiled
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