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One day I told my 3 year old son that we had no more diapers and that we couldn't get anymore and he only had like two accidents ever after that. BUT he had been going #1 and #2 on the potty since he was 1 year old. Now my 3 year old daughter shows no readiness for consistent potty use but she has a more relaxed personality whereas my son was/is more of the perfectionist type.

don't sweat it, my son is almost 4 and a half and he's not potty trained either. We tried all kinds of rewards and praise but nothing really worked. Finally, about 2 months ago, we told him "You are in charge of your potty training. Whenever you decide you want to start using the potty, it is up to you. We aren't going to bug you or harass you anymore." And then we left him alone. No urging, no reminding, we don't even mention it unless he brings it up. For about a month, nothing. But in the last few weeks he has started going a little bit here and there.

Biggest thing is, don't freak out over it. Boys just don't seem to care about it as much as girls do. He will potty train eventually. I don't see a whole lot of 10 year olds running around without diapers.

My nephew is almost 4 and does not go on the potty either. My girls and his sisters were potty trained by 2. I really think that boys may be more stubborn with things like that. I do the reward for my 4 yr old daughter when she wakes up dry at night. She seems to enjoy it, but i try not to make a big deal if she doesnt wake up dry, we dont want them to feel like they did something wrong. Just dont make it a BIG deal, and he will go when he is ready. But the preschool thing is true. Some wont take him if he is not potty trained, so that may be the kicker to get him to go, Good Luck.

In general, I hear boys potty train later than girls. My son potty trained later than his sister, as did all my friends children.

I tried a combination of things to get my son interested in using the potty. The first was talking about how great going on the potty would be. And mentioning all these fun things we could do, places we could go, if we didn't have to wear diapers anymore. (Remember, you are committing to going to these places, he will remember).

Then we got some big boy undies! We opted for some boxer-briefs like Daddy's, but with Batman on them.

Peeing on the potty got you 1 m&m. And a poop on the potty got you 2 m&m's. We also made a very big deal every time the potty was used successfully. Clapping, cheering, calling him a big boy. We never yelled about an accident.

We also had the same problem you are having. He would pee on it just fine, but he continued to #2 in a diaper for a long time. I know he knew when he needed to, because he would tell me he needed to put a diaper on. We just had to convince him to do it on the potty instead.

We also used to go in and just "visit" the potty chair frequently to get used to it. We used to just sit on it for a bit just for fun just to get comfortable with the idea of going on the potty.

Be patient. Relax. When he's ready he will do it. Until then, just be as supportive and encouraging as you can be. Don't make it stressful for him.

Good luck!

I trained my first son by using M & M's as a reward for each pee. Poops were harder. I put a chart on the refrigerator and after 5 poops in the potty, he got a trip to the toy store. Good luck!

set the timer on your stove microwave whatever or evey 30 min. and take him in to go potty. if you can tell when he is going to have a BM get him in to the potty right before he starts to go, i had to do this with my son he wouldn't do #2 on the potty until i did this. one thing that might help is give him more fluids throughout the day to increase his need to go, until he gets the hang of it. you can also buy him big boy underwear to use throughout the day, ry to stay away from pull-ups as much as possible, this way he can feel that he's wet and wil understand that it's a feeling he doesn't like. with #2 we bought underwear that had character on them for my 18 yr old brother when he started potty training and told him that to be a ig boy he had to put his poop in the potty that barney didn't like it when he had an accident in his underwear. at that time he really liked barney an didn't want him to get yucky from having poop on him.

just a few ideas hope one will work for you

Hi, this might sound silly but have you asked him why he won't go on the toilet? Does he know he's doing it? as it might be a medical issue.

I agree with the rewards, maybe do a chart for every poop and pee he gets a star and when he gets so many he will get a new toy or sweets. Loads of praise for what he does do on the toilet!

Maybe a health visiter or Doc could give some more ideas

Hope everything goes ok!

My son will be 4 in Aug and finally a couple of months ago he started using the toilet...rarely has an accident. I was getting frustrated and then I saw some Thomas underwear at Walmart and bought them. He LOVES Thomas and he wanted to wear them. I told him that if he didn't start pooping in the toilet that he could not wear them. 2 days later he was pooping like a pro.

I think 4 year old quite understand something, i don't know your son go to pre-school or not. if he will going to school you can try to let him know while he want go to school play with other kids need to know how to go to toilet by himself or bring him go to some open school to visit it to let him see someboy or girl will go by themself. Like my boy before 4 still pee #1 or #2 than he know will go to school in couple month he was automatic use the toilet.

I have no clue I have the same problem. my 2 1/2 yr. old son is terrified of the poty. when you find the secret let me know!