Okay so I'm very quiet and shy at church. After service, I leave right after and go home because I don't really want to talk to anybody at my church since it's awkward. & honestly, i'm fine with this. I don't care if I don't talk to people at my church, I still have friends!
So recently, our new youth group leader has kept PUSHING and FORCING me to stay after church and get to know others. But I don't want to! It's like he's trying to fix me up or something. I know it's nice for him to do that but STAY OUT OF MY LIFE! I don't care if i don't talk to other people in our youth group, I could really care less. I just don't want to because it's awkward and I'm not ready for it.
Maybe someday, I will start to talk to people in my church but now is not the time. He keeps calling me and pushing me so much that I can't take it anymore. & my sister and my mom is also constantly pushing and forcing me. I can't TAKE IT ANYMORE! There's so much pressure that's building up inside me.
I had to promise him that I would stay after church next sunday because I had no choice. He kept telling me 'no' wasn't an answer and that I basically HAD TO. Like I just wanted to say no but I couldn't be mean or anything...
What should I do? This is ruining and pressuring my life so much. This wasn't an issue for the last couple of years but this guy is making a HUGE DEAL out of my shyness! Like leave me alone! I don't want any help! Stop trying to control my life and let me do what I want!
Update:Should I not go to church next week because I know he's going to hunt me down and force me to stay? What should I do, I'm nervous and scared?
Update 3:My mom FORCES me every week to go to church. I do believe in God but I hate forcing myself to go there because someone is telling me to.
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I think you're right that he's just trying to be nice and helpful. However, I think he should respect the fact that you are shy and that being around people you don't know makes you quite uncomfortable. If this really bothers you, talk to your parents about this. Explain to them calmly that you are willing to get to know other people but you want to wait until you are ready. Some people are shy and they are just fine with that. I used to be shy myself when I was 14. (I'm 25 now.) I know it can be scary meeting new people but just keep in mind that if you don't want to be the center of attention, you don't have to be. I would start small with talking to one person rather than a whole host of people. If this continues to be an issue, maybe you could consider joining a youth group at another church in your area. I don't think this guy is trying to control your life. I think he's just being overly helpful which I know can be annoying. Best of luck to you! :)
I agree with you that the people in your church are too pushy. I suggest you look around for another church where people will respect your wishes. There are a lot of people who are not ready to associate with other people at church. We each deserve our time and it will happen for you if you have accepted Jesus as your Savior and keep reading the New Testament. God does want us to associate with other christians but if you are not ready, then that is OK. God Bless
No wonder I am an atheist, we do not have this rubbish. google Prof Lloyd Geering, he wrote books on - From The Big Bang until God. and - Man made God. He will explain where the religious words such as god etc evolved from. He is a theologian. A must to read. He also has a speech on google you should be about to find, interesting.
Just stop going. The Church can be anywhere you read and study the Bible. They don't own the concept of a Church any more than you do. Go sit under a tree and read the Bible to yourself, that is your Church.
No one forces you go to your Church group, right?
Have you told your mom that this man makes you feel uncomfortable? I'll bet if she knew, she would either have him canned or talk to him to get him to stop. You've done the right thing by telling him to stop, but since he's not listening to you, you need to go to someone with more power, i.e. your mom; if your mom refuses to listen to you, go to your pastor or someone else you trust to help you fix this.
You don't need to go to that church if where you live is anywhere like where I live there is probably at least 3 catholic or Christian churches within walking distance of your home
Church "leaders" are always trying to manipulate people, in particular, young people such as yourself. I'd stay away from that as much as possible. Tell your mom how much you hate it, and why you hate it. Maybe she won't force you to go any more.
Find a new church or grow a backbone and learn how to say no.
God is punishing u for going to church with ur head uncovered. Buy an elephant hat and wear it to church next time.