my bf and i are in a long distance (before everyone says that its not a "real" relationship..we've been together for 4.5 yrs and olny the past 2 in lnog distance, and we see eachother/talk ..ALOT...and im moving to be with him at the end of the month)
over the wekeend my bf went out for a few drinks wit his friends, and we got into a huge fight, and i kept calling over and over and over(even called thier phones) ..how can i change thier opinions of me? any suggestions?
when i hang out with all of thme - i should just be my usual fun self right?
Update:he doesnt care what they think ..but i would like it if all of us could hang out and have fun ..when i go to staywith my bf, i already know he'll ditch his friends for me, and thats not fair...i want it to be where ALL OF US can hang out
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psycho.
Why would you insist on continuing a fight.You had no business calling his friends.You went way over the line and should be thankful he still wants anything to do with you.I suggest that you apologize when you meet them and simply explain you were upset and let your emotions get away from you when you meet them.Most men I know are willing to forgive a woman if she admits she was wrong and will be willing to include you in the group outings.Just be on your best behaviour and it will blow over although another episode like that may make them decide that you are simply too much of a drama queen and then,by-by,girl.They will exclude you.It is good that you want to be part of all his life rather than being a separate part.A successful long-term relationship includes friends and family.
Well, it is a 'psycho' behavior to be calling him and his friends over and over.
Don't do stuff like that, even if you're feeling emotional at the time. When guys say a girl is being 'psycho', it's because she can't control her emotions, leading to a collapse of her reasoning faculties. From their point-of-view, it's not a pretty picture; believe me.
If you want to get back in with his friends, just calm down, be nice, and don't lose control like that again. Above all, be reasonable.
When you move, it will lead to a lot of changes in your relationship, hopefully for the better.
Good luck
First, if he doesn't care what they think, then you don't. They are his friends, not yours. Two, next time he doesn't answer his phone, unless its an actual emergency don't call their phones. That only perpetuates the idea of you being a little off. You seem to have it backwards..If he ditches you for his friends then its unfair. Friends come and go with or without your assistance. Plus trying hard to boost what they think of you could disturb him and its about to two of you. Not the 2 of you and his 6 friends. Just chill out and be the woman he loves. Get a long with who you can and to hell with those you don't. Same thing goes for when you acquire your own friends. Great if he gets along with him and if you really love him drop the ones he doesn't end up getting along with.
you did exactly the thing that would have provoked others to call you that. to call his phone i can see. his friends phones? you have a real anger management issue that needs to be taken care of before you move on into this relationship. if i was that young man, i wouldnt live with you until this is taken care of. now you are at a distance and you act like this. what is it going to be when you are together and he does something you dont like? throw dishes?
if someone doesnt pick up their phone it means they dont want to talk. in what common sense world does pestering someone makes them open to conversation? only in psycho world, thats where.
now lets see the women drop this on the man regardless. honey is not only you. 90% of females in this country have become psychos, so you are in good company.
I can tell just from the sound of it that he makes you out to be a psycho to his friends. Everybody knows that women sometimes go over the top when a fight occurs, and they ought to understand the situation. How women act one moment is not necessarily who they are, but to be fair, that was acting a little crazy to call his friends. You should continue to be your usual fun self, but if it continues, you ought to tell them that you're sorry for calling their phones and inadvertently involving them in your squabble. The odds are against you with them already thinking this, but also if you continue to let him go with just his friends once in awhile, he should feel like he has plenty of space.
IF you love this guy and want a life with him then go be yourself and have fun. Their opinion of you will change when they get to know you and realize what you did was because you love him. Good luck.
You can't. You've already let them know that you'll keep on calling if he doesn't answer. Not a good impression, but who cares what they think? They're not in a relationship with you.
My wife had a bf before me who lived clear accross the country. They were engaged, but he was so clingy he once called and left 72 voice mails in one hour! Each one asking/demanding to know where she was and what she was doing and whom was she with! You have to deal with your own insecurity. If you have to worry about him that much, he's not worth having. Especially if he does not have enough consideration to communicate with you.
Maybe send out a text to him and all of his friends apologizing for your erratic behavior and for calling them so many times.
If he really luvs u he wont care what his friends think. So see how he feels about it and if he chooses his friends over u then... it wasn't meant to be.