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Well... get on top so then you control the pace. start out nice and slow and it will be painful for you and might not be pleasurable this time, but the more times you do it the more the pain will go away. tell him beforehand that your scared and you need for it to go slow and he should understand. Goodluck hun :)

The most important thing is to GO SLOW. I would recommend that you have some lube on hand (not just a lubricated condom). Have him start with his fingers (lubed up, preferably; if you're a bit nervous you might not produce as much natural lubrication, and that will definitely help.) It will probably hurt a little bit when your hymen breaks, but it's really not that bad.

This probably goes without saying, but make sure you have a little stash of condoms on hand as well - sex is always better when you know you're protected.

I would probably recommend sticking with missionary position and girl on top. Girl on top is nice because you can control the action, but make sure you are well-lubricated and communicating with each other - it's easy for him to slip a little while you ride him it can be painful (for him! Ask my husband, ha ha)

Go slow, communicate with other, and have a great time! These tips are not just good for the first time, but the basis for a good sex life (not necessarily the go slow, ha ha!) but tell him what you like while he's doing it, and have him do the same for you.

Best of luck to you!

I'm about to lose mine in a couple weeks.. (2 and 2 days! YIKES!) so let's just say, me being me, I did a lot of research.

LUBE. - I can't stress this enough.... you're scared it will hurt? It will! If you don't use lube.

Condoms. - Whether you're both clean or not doesn't matter, there is such a thing as STI's, (Infections) there's not only STD' in this world.

An old towel -Hate to break it to you, but it seams we've got a 50/50 chance of bleeding our first time. So in case you don't want to stain the sheets, take one and put it under your hips.

A pad -For the next day. You will probably have spotting.

Time- You have to have a lot of time to make sure you get wet enough. I'd say foreplay for at least an hour! Also, somewhere you know you can't be disturbed. if you can, it can make you stressed as hell and you won't relax and it will be painful.

As ofr positions, I've heard a lot of people suggest girl on top, so you can take your time and go at a pace you're comfortable with. However I'm opting for missionary, because I'm not good at handling pain and I know it will be easier if he pops it because I won't be able to by myself halfway through.

Hope I helped :)

There's pretty much nothing you can do to make it not hurt at all. Some lubricant would help (but kinda kills the mood), better for there to be a lot of foreplay so there's lots of natural lubricant. And just relax. Being relaxed is the #1 way for pleasure.

xx

honey its not possible for it to be pleasurable the first time if anyone has than lucky them.. its not too bad but it does hurt. my opinion when doing it for the first it was alright with him on top so maybe you could try it that way to start out with.. but for me after awhile of being on the bottom it wasnt feeling the greatest so i switch to the top. it still hurts on the top too but not as bad. just make sure you tell him to start out slow and make sure to use actual lube and plenty of it not too much tho but make sure you use it it helps alot. hope that helps:) good luck!

have him be on top so that it wont hurt as much..if its his first time too, it will be pretty quick