So, I think I'm a lesbian, although I don't really know for sure. My first kiss was with a girl, one of my best friends. At first it was just a thing that we both wanted to try, but every time I go over to her house, I want to do it again. When I was in middle school, I thought I liked guys, but it was really just that everyone else did, I was never actually into it. Although I could definitely see myself with a girl, and I've wanted to try it for a while. And when I go places, I'll say that a guy's hot or whatever, but I say it a lot with other girls as well. I'm 18, and it's not just a passing phase because I've been like this since I was in about 8th grade. Am I a lesbian, or am I just bi/bi-curious?
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To begin with, there is nothing wrong about being lesbian. If your feelings give you that feedback, you shouldn't fight it, or you'd go against what's part of your personality. Luckily, we live in an era when these "issues", as some people would still call such important life questions (but "life issues" can also be seen as a neutral term by now), become more and more acceptable and do get accepted. It's often a matter of intelligence and education, or the lack of both, that's behind when you get to hear negative comments. The feelings you describe aren't new at all, it was just that society (various societies and religious communities, one might want to say) didn't treat them right, or didn't know what to think or do about them. Some people might have feared them, people politically in control might have dreaded their authority might be undermined by habits so different from what they were preaching to get people's behaviours under their control. - Gladly, these days there are more opportunities around, and, exceptions excluded, many more people are open-minded about being gay in general. Some countries have legalised gay marriages. There is less and less of a need to hide lesbian feelings, and pretending one finds people of the opposite sex attractive for the sake of others might not be a good long-term solution. In the end, one would hope to be accepted the way one really is and feels, after all, instead of going on pretending. Give yourself some more time. Going by how you described your feelings, an interest in "guys" might be just a marginal matter or one mentioned for the sake of others. A definite answer to your question might not yet be possible.
You are the only one that can answer that question. As you get older and start living life and experimenting you'll find out for yourself. I don't know if you have ever been with a guy, but if you haven't, the day you do you'll know right away if you like guys or not, as well as if you ever have the chance to be with a girl you'll discover if you really like girl's or not.You could be bi-les or just curious. Don't rush anything, just let things be and follow your instinct.
I think your probably bi curious ,cause yea you say girls are hot ,but uve never been with one relationship wise ..and you wana try it so id consider it being curious :)
You might be lesbian, you might be bisexual with a strong preference for women. I think you might want to explore this part of you a bit more before labeling it.
fact= women usually take longer about many things to know about what they like. Women are just, well,more complicating.