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A lot of people struggle with their sexuality at some point... even people that remain straight could wonder at some point in their lives. Just try to figure out who you are, and there's no sense in trying to change it. It is true that it is much harder to be a homosexual in our society, but our society has gradually become more accepting over the years and it seems like it will continue to progress in the future. Don't be ashamed of who you are. I am a Christian, and forgive me if this seems hypocritical or insulting, but the one thing I do not agree with is the Bible's nonacceptance of homosexuals. I believe God is deeper than people can fathom, and one's sexual orientation is cannot be exempt from his forgiveness.

Well, have you stopped liking men altogether (sexually/ romantically?). You know, love is not limited to any one gender, age, etc. Society gives us certain idealistic criteria to choose a mate by, but as human beings we are so complex that these criteria just amount to conditions, and true love is after all unconditional. Even `lesbian' is only a label.

What part of "lesbian" can you not accept about yourself? The fact that you can like women too? I suggest you throw that out of the window, because sexual research (refer the Kinsey scale, and studies) has found that very few human beings are purely heterosexual (in other words, poker straight) anyway. So nothing wrong in liking women! To have an open heart and to love without barriers, now that is a far more difficult task..

Keep an open mind and be peaceful, that is all I would suggest. If you wish to find a woman as your partner, there are so many possibilities to do that anyway. If you are afraid of others' discrimination or hang ups about you being a lesbian, you might want to seek some professional help to get over that fear, or look at some online fora that give advice on how to deal with "coming out" to friends and family.

All the best.

while you may be having a hard time coming to terms with it, remind yourself that in this era you are accepted (maybe not by everyone, but by the majority) you are not alone, and things will only get better for each individual gay person, and for our community. As others have said to you, talk it out. talk until you cant talk anymore, and figure out why it bugs you. is it other people judging you, or is it more personal.

also, understand that when you do accept it, there is a whole culture waiting for you - with open arms

Well, firstly. Do you have a girlfriend? Have you done anything with a woman so far? Do you have a lot of interest and fantasize about womans often?

If the answer is yes to one or more of these questions, then you surely are attracted to the female kind.

It shouldn't be a problem accepting it, if you are surrounded by people that love you for who you are and not for who you love. :)

Good Luck!

PS

are you in any way still attracted to the male sex?

it's ok to be a lesbian, you need to meet some, look for support in your community, gay and lesbian alliances, etc, and start socializing, and you will find much diversity, not all the scary stereotype you might be thinking of. i came out as bi in my mid-twenties and it wasn't fashionable to be bi back then, i had a total of three girlfriends over an 8 year time span, and now i am married to a man whose feminine qualities are more developed than most men. be patient with yourself and love yourself.

hey, look at that. we have something in common.

it sucks some serious popsicles, i know. im a lesbian and it took me well over 3 years to accept it, even though iv ALWAYS known it. i hated myself for it, i absolutly despised myself for feeling the way i do. it drove me into depression, and a whole bunch of other shiz. i tried to make myself like guys, i became school skank for a while.

trust me honey, the sooner you accept it, the happier you'll be. dont fight it, because you'll lose. just go with it, much more fun :)

Women are so much more attractive than men (around 100%)

I'd be a lesbian if I were a girl

well if its obvious that your into women then you have to accept it and know that's who you are.

reading about lesbian stories could help you. sometimes seventeen magazine does issues about lesbian life's so maybe you could read those or anything about realizing lesbianism. google can help too.

dont be shy about it and express yourself freely.

-wish you good luck (:

The only way to find out is to try it, and if you don't like it your not lesbian.

It's your choice. Are you a lesbian, or aren't you? Don't count on people to decide that for you, just learn from your moves if you are what you think.