Well basically, I've known this girl for a year or so, and we first started of as friends because I knew her boyfriend. They often had sex alot and they were both amazing together, they both lost their virginity to each other, when they broke up I was her shoulder to cry on and we got really close, we both told each other we 'like someone' we both know it was each other though. Then she got back with him, I don't know why, so I got angry and we became distant, then they broke up again (because he wanted her for sex) I don't know if they did. Then she got with this other guy who she knew for like a month and had sex with him too. Then they broke up. Then a month or 2 afterwards we got close again, closer than before. We talked on the phone a lot and met up a couple times. Then recently, yesterday; we met up and hugged a lot, then we kissed at the end of the day, it was amazing. She knows I'm Christian and won't have sex until after marriage and she said she's proud of me. I explained to her why I felt kind of upset because of her having sex and giving herself away so easily to those boys an she said its behind her and she's changed. I really like her, maybe even love her, we have so much in common and we both say we're perfect for each other, I said I don't want a relationship because I'm afraid we might ruin what we have, but I didn't tell her it's because of what she's done in the past. I don't know what to do..it puts a heavy weight on my heart every time I think about her having sex so loosely..what do I do..?
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Wow, really? Humans and animals have been having sex for millions of years and just this one instance is bothering you? Sex is normal.
However, I feel that you are trying to pass off what you feel as her cheating on you because you have such feelings for her as "having sex loosely". I think you should try and start something with her and see where it goes. You "won't have sex untill your married" great, I disagree with this philosophy, but I really don't care, this isnt a question of religion. You will never get married if that remains the excuse for not starting a relationship.
Start something and agree that what ever happens you will still both be friends (this is actually doable despite what many will tell you). Then, whatever happens, happens. You can sit and stew on all the "bad" that she has done and all the "bad" that may come of it, but untill you try you never know... Schrodinger's Cat...