Im at a lost what to do in this situation? can people please advise?
I was at my uncles 50th birthday whom i am extremely fond of. I brought my husband because u know it was important for me that he was there..all he did was degrade everyone..listen to what he said about my family...he called my mother a witch..my sister looked terrible because she gained lotsa wieght and she hasnt shes a size 12...my other sister looks like a man..her gf looks like a dwarf....my cousin who is also on of my best friends is obsese and has gained an unreal amount of wieght...my cousins fiance is white thrash..my uncle is some fat dude from grand theft auto..my cousin male looks fat and bald...and the fuction place we were in looked like a pub from shameless he texted his friend..my husband is from a wealthy background i am not...i think he thinks he is better than my family because they are all plumbers and electrians etc what do i do about this? i mean he was almost shouting it when he said it? i cant
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You don't need that humiliation.Move on.There is nothing wrong with the people in your family and nothing wrong with their jobs.Atleast they do have jobs and your family all have each other.
He sounds horrible. The question for you is why are you with this loser? And yes, he is a loser, no matter how much money he has. He seems like a failure as a human being. I'm sure he just didn't all of a sudden turn this way. You choose to be with him and since he probably didn't aim his insults at you, you thought it was okay he was such a gigantic jerk. I guess you're paying for that lack of judgment now.
I too was married to some one like that. The only thing I was the one from a more well to do family. An I could not get my now ex to go around my family unless he new he was getting some them from them. Sad isn't it! we are no longer together just to let you know that was not all that broke us up. You need to tell him like it is now if he really love you he will try an make sure he does not hurt your feeling again. If he does not care then just wait intill you start to gain some weight.
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Sorry to say, but he sounds like a spoiled jerk. If he is going to be rude to you family then perhaps you both should agree on he either treat them respect or you go visit them without him. When he married you , your family is part of who you are and those that you love. You love your husband and I know you would like it to be that he be respectfull to you and those you love. You should be able to have everyone you love in your life.
I agree 100% with Amish Rebel. He was/is very inappropriate. Sounds very insecure with a healthy dose of nastiness to boot. Have a talk and tell him how it makes you feel to have him behave like that. Good Luck, it sounds like you will need it.
he sould like one who need to get out an life like us, he spoil, an think he better than any one else, the way it sound like latter down the road he be ,on your case next,an be move on from you, be proud of your family, for they the true one that made this world,they are the littl man, for with out them , he would not, be able, to be wher he at, it the little guy that made out country
wow.........he sounds like my hubby....with all the degrading....? though.......is his father a degrading person......if he is than ur hubby will be just like that.....my father in law is such a degrading person i feel like punching him in the face sometimes....and my hubby is the same way....like father like son is what i always say. and no matter how many times u talk to ur hubby bout the crap that comes out of his mouth ur better off talking to a brick wall......i've heard comments from hubby bout my family.....mainly my mother and sister.....so i know what you are going through.....its not fun and its very hurtful
Tell him while he was going on and on, your family and friends wondered why his bulge is in the back of his pants instead of the front.
Sounds like your husband is very insecure. Or just a butthead. Or both.