I'm a senior student..High School, to be specific.. well, last year, when i was still a third year student, i hang along with my friends...(boys..)preferably..haha...because we're just in the same room/section, and i prefer to go with boys than girls...because girls? all the do is talk about...boys,boys, boys!! unlike with boys, they are so fun to be with....now, seniors as we are, we had been separated into different sections...my friends or shall we say group, also had quarrels and so separated...one of them came to me and told me, i changed a lot! i have m reason why...because my boyfriend gets jealous of them...so i don't hang out with them now..one of them always tell me that im so stupid and don't have cooperation! what wud i do?? am i that cruel??
Update:to be more specific...i dont hang out anymore with my friends which are boys now because my boyfriend told me so 'cause he's jealous! now, i am staying away from my (boy) friends to cause less trouble with my guy...now, one of my (boy) friends told me that i had changed and been stupid! they didn't know the reason why im staying away!! am i that cruel?
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Frankly, if your boyfriend already wants to decide for you who you may and may not spend time with, I'd seriously consider whether you want to be tied to such a control freak, and somebody also who is too insecure to let you lead a normal life with your friends.
It's his problem if he's jealous, and he should work on it until he's got it under sufficient control that he doesn't feel threatened if you continue your friendship with other people, boys or girls. At the moment, you've given him exactly what he wants, and without arguing or challenging him either, unless you left that out of your description of the situation.
He's already exercising control over you, and if you give in so easily, your life won't be your own - it'll be his! What does he want in a girlfriend - a doormat?
wimsey
I don't think you are cruel. But you should still hang out with your friends- your boyfriend is the one who should adjust, if he is jealous that doesn't mean you should stop being friends with them. He should accept that they are your friends and move on. And the reason your friend probably called you stupid is because you probably stopped hanging out with them abruptly, and they didn't know why, so it probably hurt their feelings because they didn't know what was going on and why you weren't talking to them anymore. I don't think you're mean, it was just a misunderstanding like the person above me said. What I would do it talk to your boyfriend and let him know that you can't stop being friends with them and he should just accept it, and then apoligize to your friends. I hope this answer helps and I hope everything works out 4 you! =)
I don't think that you are cruel, however you can have a boyfriend and at the same time hang out with your friends (which are boys) , you can talk with your boyfriend about it , and tell him that they are just friends, and that he could also hang out with all of you!!!..... and at the same time, you can tell your friends that you have a boyfriend now and you cant hang out with them as much as you used to, and come to an agreement that all of you are satisfied..
good luck :)
I'm intrigued, you stopped hanging around with your friends, because your boyfriend got jealous?
that's harsh... your bf needs to get a handle on the jealousy and accept that they are your friends... but other than that i don't really understand the question?
no u r not cruel. it is just a small misunderstanding. u just go to ur frnds n talk vid them bcz they understands u
'so i don't hang out with them now..one of them always tell me that im so stupid'...the answer is inside your question!!!
yup bcoz u leave ur friend bcoz of ur boy???
u should know friend is the most important than ur boy..
if one day ur boyfriend leave u who's should u search??
it would be ur friend!!!
then??