My husband and I were separated twice. With the first one, he came back right away but ever since that time, my sister in law (who is married to his brother) started treating me differently or let's say with indifference. I believed it was "my imagination" but after several episodes I knew for sure that it was not. Then with the 2nd separation which seemed to be lengthier she did a birthday party for my nieces and in so many words invited my kids only. I guess people take sides and it was hurtful to know that I cannot be an aunt any longer after 8 years to be suddently excluded. But I could not expect more from this person because for some reason, I feel she was always envious of "the family coming to my house and not to hers for parties" as she had complained to me many years ago. I did not know she felt this way until she told me herself that it had bothered her. It was not my fault, but a longstanding tradition that my husband's grandmother always came on those 2 holidays. However, my husband and I got back together and my little girl's birthday is coming up. We celebrate it on weekends when they fall on a school day. So I got a call to let my mother in law know and she is hoping my husband and I could come to a "celebration of life" that she is doing precisely the same day I would celebrate my daughter's birthday. Coincidence? Her aunt passed away last November. She has a right to celebrate her aunt's life, but I cant help but feel this person sabotaged my daughter's birthday. Trust me when I have given this person the benefit of a doubt but she has been doing things for the past 2 years that are similar in nature when it has to do with the kids and the birthday parties.