hey i'm 17, a girl, and a virgin.
i'm pretty likely to lose my virginity soon to a really close friend of mine-we've been friends for a long time but have discussed the idea of having sex quite frequently.
he's 20 and very experienced and knows i've not had sex before, and has established that if we find ourselves in the position of wanting to do it that he'd make sure it's exactly what i want.
i know a lot of you will judge and say i should wait til marriage/be in a relationship etc but to be honest i'd rather lose my virginity to someone who's experienced and that i find extremely attractive than wait til i'm in a relationship (which doesn't seem to gonna be happening any time soon) than lose it to a guy who's also a virgin because of the awkwardness and pain etc.
anyway all that aside, what are some good tips for it? and how much will it hurt?
thanks for any answers. :)
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Depends, it might hurt or it might not, and there might be blood but there might not. If he's experienced and a nice guy, won't be a problem. Do lots of foreplay, have lubrication ready for in case you want it, and don't rush into it. And then just ease into it with him.
Take it slow, don't rush. It should only hurt a bit, and it will be worse if you aren't in the mood so work up to it, get comfortable with him.
Use protection! Even if you are on the pill, use a condom.
Well done on waiting :) The best position to start with on your first time will always be missionary. If it's his first time too then you have nothing to worry about.. You can both get the hang of it the same rate.. Put some music on that you both enjoy.. doesn't have to be peaceful music at all.. Club, Hip-Hop, House, Rock.. anything! takes the tension off your mind.. Dont make it into like a planned routine.. like you've practised it or seomthing and don't go straight into it.. I suggest kissing to start off with.. and then just get closer to set the mood and obviously foreplay.. I would advise buying lube as it's your first time.. and put a towel underneath you incase you bleed ( don't worry - its not as scary as it sounds ) First few times may be a little painful.. and after that you both will discover new positions that are good for you and it will be extremely enjoyable and bonding :) I really advise you to relax.. If you don't your muscles will be tense and you will be tighter and it will be less pleasurable.. Maybe a couple of glasses of wine might help.
i think you should relax because the more you dont the more it would feel awkward you should be yourself because thats the best thing to do in the bedroom joking around and goofing around is a good way to do it me and my boyfriend say goofy stuff all the time like he would be like im a man now and ima big boy and i just laugh and laugh and its fun its not suppose to feel like your being pressured it should be fun and yes once he does put it in it will hurt so tell him to take it slow after awhile it shouldn't hurt though it should feel good
Just use a damn glove aka condom.