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Don't give it up, if he loves you he'll wait if not he isn't worth it

Being a virgin is some thing to be proud about and the older you get the better it is! In high school I remember the girls that still had their virginity had more boyfriends and got more respect then the girls that didn't! All it takes is one boyfriend to tell everybody how you are easy and your high school reputation is ruined! Also, if your ready to have sex then you better be ready to raise a baby and take care of your self! Your boyfriend is already sexually active which means he could have an STD. Please don't say he doesn't because he does not have to tell you the truth either way! If you are not ready for an STD or a child then hold on to your virginity and be proud of having it! Everybody loses their virginity eventually it is something special to be the only girl that still has hers! Also, think about how highschool will be with a child or STD. Babies take a lot of time and money so there goes your social life. An STD you have to be treated for and once everybody finds out you have herpes or warts- there goes your social life! Just think before you do anything, if he isn't willing to wait or pressures you into it he isn't right for you!

Its normal to be nervous, you are considering trying something new that can change your life drastically. The real issue is if you are ready to take that next step with your bf. Make sure its a step that you really really want to take. By you saying he has talked you through it a couple times sounds more like pressure from him, than you really being curious or wanting to try it. Only you can decide what you want to do, when you are ready, and what is right for you. If he doesnt get it, then he shouldnt be the one to share that moment with you.

That being said, your first time is going to be pretty painful, and not enjoyable at all for you. There is a big chance of you bleeding as well. How much it hurts, and how much you bleed depends on him though. If he really cares about you, he will enter slowly, and at your pace. If you feel it hurts too much, you have the right to change your mind and tell him to stop. If he gets mad, then he isnt looking out for your best interest, only for himself.

Most importantly though, USE PROTECTION!!!!!! Its not his first time, so he may or may not be clean/std free. He should get tested first, and if he objects maybe you shouldnt do it.

Good luck either way.

You seem very young, your spelling gives that away. Too young to have sex. If your not sure what happens, your TOO YOUNG. If you question whether or not you should do it, then it means your ARE NOT READY! Do not let him talk you into doing something you are not ready for. You will regret it. He won't because he will be gone eventually. This is the fact, you will probably not marry this person and he would have made off with the only thing you have that is yours and yours alone, to give away to the man you are going to spend the rest of your life with, or at least the man you love at a time in your life when your old enough to understand what that means. You will regret it. Tell him to go into the bathroom and do it to himself when he gets to hot around you. He shouldn't try to "Convince" you of anything. That alone means NO is the right answer. Please be smart, talk to your mom (which I know can be hard) or another older person that you respect and will trust. This is sooooo important. As a mom of a young person, I don't want her or him getting into the situation your in, but I would want to know what they are feeling and hopefully be able to help them make the right decision, one they won't regret. Good luck. I wish I could reach out more and make you understand the mistake your planning.

How old are you? I can tell by your question that you are not cognitively ready for sex because you are having a hard time processing what to expect. So he's not a virgin, why hasn't he stayed with any of the other girls he's slept with? Probably the same reason he won't stay with you very long. You need to decide if he is going to be the first of a long line of men your going to have had sex with, Or are you going to wait and give the man you love and marry the one thing you can only give once....your virginity?

Your decision can mean the difference between a sleezy horrible embarressment or a loving warm and wonderful expierence. The ball is in your court

Its perfectly normal to be nervous.

You need to make sure that your really ready. This is something very big.Its a special thing that should be shared between 2 people that really love eachother. If hes asking for it though it doesnt sound like hes the one. If your wanting to wait he should be willing to wait too.

Ill be honest the first time is not amazing! It does hurt if your not relaxed. And you probably wont be relaxed. So it will hurt. You shouldnt be embarrased but if you are thats another sign your not ready.

No one can really tell you what the experience will feel like cause everyones is different.

Just make sure you take the necessary precautions if you do have sex. Either you or him wear a condom. You dont want pregnancy to be the cause of your first time.

Make the right choice. Dont rush you have your whole life!

Let me just put this out there first if you feel uncomfortable and you don't want to do it then he shouldn't pressure you in anyway..you might regret it later but if you want to go ahead and do it I am not trying to discourage you and I hope you are old enough and now what the consequences could be, also if he has slept with other people you want to be sure he doesn't have an std b/c it can be passed on to you with or without a condom- You shouldn't be embarrassed thats why you should wait to have sex with someone you fully have trust with and are totally comfortable with don't blow it on someone that just wants your for the sex...It depends on the person but it usually will hurt the first time and you might even bleed b/c if hes ruff he can break your hymen which will cause you to bleed....just be careful and do what you think is right and not what someone else wants you to do and wear protection!!!!!

Ok.... well losing your virginity is a big deal. I mean normally the ideal thing is to wait until you are married.I wish I would have.Because my husband is the best thing that has ever happened to me.But you know you are young.I wont lie to you. It is a scary thing. Because of all the risks.Pregnancy,disease,exc.... Yes people do it all the time but the point is and no offense to men but lets face it sex to them to most anyway is just sex. I dont know how old you are or your bf.But it sounds to me like you arent ready.If you arent its ok it doesnt make you a bad person.Your bf should respect that and wait.If he doesnt then he isnt the guy you wanted in the first place.Enjoy being young.Because youth doesnt last forever. Once you graduate from Hs its a completly different world.

hey. first of all are you old enough to be having sex yet?

if you are then there is absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. lucky for us the guy has to do most of the work when the girl is a virgin. make sure you are totally ok with you and him having sex, don't feel like he is pressuring you into doing anything you don't want to do. basically he will put his dick inside of you, to put it bluntly. if he is not a virgin then that is good because he will know what he is doing. i am not going to lie it will hurt a bit, and there will possibly be blood. but it is nothing to be embarrassed about, it happens to every girl.

oh and remember to use protection. whether it is a condom or you are on the pill. you can also try lubricant to make it less pain full.

hope i helped :)

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i replaced right into a virgin as quickly as I married at 37. Yep, 37. I had danger many circumstances to furnish it away. 2 adult men I dated lengthy term. a pair of casual relationships. I had each and every purpose to proceed to be organic till I married. My virginity replaced into one difficulty, one valuable present that i might desire to furnish my husband that no different guy had ever had. My husband is familiar with that he's the only guy i've got ever enjoyed. That each and every thing i know has come from him. consequently, as quickly as I recommend some thing or want to purpose new issues he's never jealous thinking I learn it from yet another guy. because of fact I have no sexual bags I even have an exceedingly wealthy intercourse existence with the only guy i've got ever enjoyed. My brother did no longer marry till he replaced into 38 and he replaced right into a virgin too. it incredibly is common adequate to furnish your virginity away. 2 seconds and it incredibly is complete yet to certainly safeguard and shop for somebody your vow your existence to is a superb act of dedication and love. I have no regrets.

You don't sound ready to take this step. I mean, being nervous is acceptable but not knowing what is going to happen?

Eh....it is painful, there can be blood and there is no pleasure in it at all for you for at least the first couple of times.