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All girls are different. She could have already broke her hymen, through some sort of trauma, she could have been born without one. She could be born with one that has to be surgically broken. (That's rare, but I've heard stories).

However, there's no real way to tell if a girl is a virgin for the most part.

Just because she doesn't bleed doesn't mean she's not a virgin.

Unlike most people on here who forget about other cultures and go by the American standards of marriage. There really is no way to tell.

Bleeding on her part can be caused by many things. Her hymn, or a clear membrain covering the opening of the vagina, could still be in tact and "pop" when you first have sex. She could have lost it due to trama, period, or sports. so thats not a good indication of her virginity.

She could also bleed because you are well endowed. If you have a large member, and don't participate in forplay,and just "go for it" you would be ripping her insides. Litterally. If you participate in forplay, regardless of size, you open her up to accomidate your man parts, and it would be more enjoyable for her and for you.

And last but not least...rough sex. If you have REALLY rough sex with her, she can bleed.

But, trust your wifes word. If she says she is..thats all you have to go off of.

a girl could be born with a fragmented hymen which will not lead to bleeding~

first timers don't usually enjoy sex that much. they will grow to love it, but the first few times will not be too pleasant~ you could ask her how she feels. (i hope she won't be scared to tell u the truth)

honestly, if you have a great relationship and strong foundation built on trust, then you should be able to talk to her about anything~

if you're just gonna be telling this to your family, and you truly love this girl, then u can just tell them that she bled on her first night~ most ppl would believe her as a virgin. but if you value the virginity thing, and won't marry her unless she's a virgin, make sure u state clearly to her-- let her choose to tell you the truth , then u may choose to care or not.

She might not bleed, sometimes the hymen is broken down in non sexually related activity, such as tampons and even sport.

You'll have to trust your wife's word. That's what a relationship is based on anyway.

there is no guarantee that she will bleed...

unless your a physician and can determine if her hyman is broke, not to mention this could have been broke doing something as simple as riding a bike etc... theres no real way to tell other then her word. you shouldnt marry someone because your parents tell you too.. marry them for love and TRUST

she prob won't bleed if she uses tampons. then she most likely has broken her hymen already.

you can ask her or just look and see if it is broken if you know what i mean

it shouldnt matter if you love her and if u dont why are you marring her?

well if u have sex and she bleeds shs a virgin, if u have sex and it feels loose and no blood then shes not