I'm a 29 year old professional female who is having major issues with her sexuality! I'm engaged to a wonderful man, but in recent months have started to think that I might be gay. I've had several one on one encounters with women in that past 5 years which were all wonderful and meaningful, that never went past casual, but not for my lack of trying. I'm still sexually attracted to some males, but usually find ladies very attractive. I love my fiance very much and could be very happy with him, but can't help but think that deep down I'm really not meant to end up with a man. I feel crazy, selfish and trapped, but never the less still in love with him. I just feel that I'm more mentally and emotionally connected to women. I don't know where to start to even explore my feelings.
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You're not gay!
You're either bisexual or bi-curious.
And the fact that you still are attracted to male, I don't see a reason why you should end up your relationship with him. Try discussing this matter with him. I'm sure he'll be understanding.
After all it's not your choice.
All the best. =)
Your not gay hun, your just Bisexual, and It would be a very stupid mistake to call off a wedding. You would feel horrible, and you would most definitely make that man that your engaged to feel horrible! If the marriage really isn't meant to be then you will know, when your engaged you do start feeling different, cold feet, but It will pass, and everyone gets attracted to other people, but if your engaged let it be! and live your life!
If you love him, then there shouldn't really be a problem.
Maybe you could have ended up with a girl, but you didn't - you ended up with a wonderful man who loves you very much.
If you are bi, it doesn't matter. (it does not seem like you are gay)
Just do what feels right. Does it feel right to end it with him and look for someone new?
I don't think that we are really qualified to give you advice on this kind of level (:
xx Good luck (:
"Major issue" & "I'm really not meant to end up with a man" plus other things sounds legit towards you being Gay. What else can that tell you ma"am, i think you are gay. But then again, sometimes family and religious matters barge in and we don't know how to handle them at the right time.
I would suggest you take time for yourself and re-think about it. (take a second)
:)
well i wouldn't say your gay i would say you could be bi . you could be attracted to both men and women . not to put more pressure on you or anything like that but if your engaged to a be married you should try to resolve this asap . you could just be bi tho
I'm a guy i have a lot of girlfriends that are bi i just love bi girls well i love girl on girl . sometimes i wonder what it would be like to be a girl and have a girlfriend .
Best of luck love .
you are not a gay. but you are a bi.
please keep your engagement. live is short.