Okay there's this guy that I was in love with...and he said that he was in love with me too. He even asked me out but we both decided to not date until I saw him more often, since he was now going to a different school. But then last night he told me he wanted to only be close friends because...there's another girl he's been seeing. I was really upset and he seemed really sorry, but I don't know what to do...if he ever wants me back what do I say? And I don't know...but should I see other guys? I just need advice from anybody, because I'm really just so surprised by all this, when I thought I had found the perfect guy. And he wasn't exactly cheating on me since we were never really going out...right? And he said he was never trying to hurt me, but what does that mean? Does that mean he thinks that if he starts seeing another girl ill be perfectly fine with it? Help!
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Love doesn't fade away easily. Unless you do something really messed up he'll probably love you long after his other relationship is over.
If he DOES come back to you, don't reject him out of pride/spite because all that'll do is hurt you both.
As for dating other people in the meantime, it's kinda unfair to start a relationship with someone while you're still in love with somebody else. If you get a new boyfriend just make sure he knows your situation and make sure he knows what you want out of the relationship and what you don't.
Ok, since he is going to another school and you two won't each other then yea he will be seeing other girls. You should see other guys aswell. I know u believe he is the perfect guy, and its ok. But there are many other guys in your school. Just go date other guys and see how you feel towards other people. If he asks you out again, just say what you feel. I cant answer that question for you, only you know that answer
Hope this helped.
First off, you should move on. You can't look for a serious thing with somebody if you two arent even officially dating. Second, don't worry about him asking you to get back with him, because if he played you like that once, he will likely do it again. And even if he didn't mean to hurt u, he did. And that cant be changed. And finally, you should start seeing other guys.
His statement means that he cares about you and doesnt want to hurt you but obviously he was going to hurt you, and its unavoidable. Obviously it wasnt true love because then he wouldnt just leave you. You didnt love him because you guys didnt even go out yet, what do you even know about this guy?? I understand how you feel to a point though, that is terrible. And i wish the best for you. Remember to be forgiving to be loving, but to be reasonable and not TOTALLY blinded by love, but a little blindness is good. FAITH is good, and hope is good. He is out there somewhere honey.
Its better he told you than cheating on you.
Ah, the other person thing. He will do it again. Move on, date other people. If you see each other more often, thats great. if you both find yourself single go for it.
No one is perfect. No, since you weren't going out it wasn't cheating; it was moving on. "I didn't mean to hurt you" depends on how he said it. I'd like to believe that he thinks he may have unintentionally hurt you by moving on... I've actually unintentionally hurt people by bad timing for professing my interest... I'm still paying for my last one and I feel like s*it about it.
Of course, most of this is speculation since I do not know him.
You have inadvertently said or done something signaling to him that you only want to be friends. You have two options here. Your first option is to confess your feelings to him and ask for a chance to see if the two of you can make a good couple. Your second option is to simply accept his offer of friendship and forever live not knowing what could have been... wondering about the one that got away. It's your call. Good Luck.
He's not perfect if he's willing to tell you that. It may seem like a match made in heaven but it's obviously not. It takes time and trust me this happens to all of us at one point or another.
ok he obviously likes u no doubt
n if he wasnt wit dat chick hed go 4 u
n no hes not cheating on u u 2 wer never datng lol
i bet its cuz he dnt want 2 hurt da other girls feelings by dating u
plus u shuldnt c other guys cuz dat wuld upset da guy n make him feel bad
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hope it helps! ! !
move on and if he wants you back tell him its too late if he really liked you than he would go out with you right after you guys told each other you loved them
Ok fist hun
long distances relationships don't last
and if he wants you back then you cant say yes but its over a phone or a computer or a cell witch you dont realy get to see him to offten soo i would not but that me not you
hope i help ! (: