This girl and I really like each other. But we can carry on conversations through text and through phone. But when ever I see her, i can't talk or even carry on a conversation with more than 5 seconds. I feel like i'm losing her, and I don't know what to do. Also the only time we have to talk during the day is like 5 minutes during passing period, and shes grounded so I cant ask her out. I also feel like we came in to the relationship too fast without knowing each other much. So anyways, please help me find out a way I can be "less awkward" because apparently I look around too much, and i'm jittery. Also how can I make her talk more, because when I do get to see her, she doesn't talk much. And.. she is the only girl I have these sorts of problems with..
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Well - first off you like her...A LOT. So, you obviously feel that anything you say or do may affect her feelings for you. Like "I don't want to say the wrong thing - or it might make me look like a jerk and then she won't like me anymore (or as much) " -- something like that. (And I know, you're not a jerk - just an example) -- I call it the scoreboard is up in my head. Like for me - I have some girlfriends who are better friends than girlfriends - Why ? Because the scoreboard in my head isn't up. So what's the solution - try this (I do this - it works for me) - talk to them (be with them) - like you're hangin' with your best bud or like you're hangin' with a relative that you've known your whole life. This'll chill you out. Also, don't worry about it so much. This is one girl in a long line of many. And how do you get her to talk more - make her laugh. Laughter loosens up anyone - and with girls - it's a huge plus if you can get them to laugh. Hope some of this helped. Good luck brotha !
During the first couple weeks to a month the relationship is awkward. Just try to be calm. Talk bout anything try to get conferable with her. She might feel awkward to and want you to start the conversation. Just be yourself and it will be all good.
you just have to think of things to say to her, and things to start a conversation about. Even though she doesn't say anything... you never know she may be dying to talk to you, but she just doesn't know what to say! you have to lead the conversation