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Why don't you let her wear panties at your sisters house? It seems to me that she knows the difference between a "diaper" and underwear. If she's wearing a "diaper"/pull-up then she doesn't feel the need to go in the toilet.

As for the poop...I have no idea. Sorry. You could try getting her to flush it, maybe make it a game or something. Not sure.

Getting scared of pooping is common. If at all possible when you get her up off the potty close the lid, wipe her bottom and let her leave the bathroom.

At your sister's house have her go and sit on the potty once an hour with the panties. Going back and forth between panties and pull ups can cause confusion.

You should ask her why the poop is scary (if she is able to express her reasons). If she is just afraid of the poop itself, maybe you touching it a few times (sorry, I know that's gross - keep the soap handy) will send the message that it's safe. I've heard that some kids who are potty training see their excrement as a part of themselves, and therefore fear the loss of a piece of themselves. If that's the case, maybe act really excited when she poops, or say something like "wow, I bet it feels good to get that out," or something that says to her that it's OK to poop. As for the question about you sister's house, I suggest having her wear the panties instead of the pull-ups. Your daughter will probably use the potty as reliably as she does at home (as long as your sister keeps on her about using it as much as you would).

Maybe you should let her wear panties to your sisters house. Just send extra clothes in case of an accident. And be sure that your sister is asking her often if she needs to use the potty. Sorry, I don't know what to tell you about the poop thing.

Here are some tips:

First, make sure that you have a potty seat that your child will accept in each bathroom. There are a lot of choices out there these days, from potty seats, rings, musical chairs, and ones that attach to the toilet. Take your child shopping with you and let him or her pick out the potty seats.

Pick out some small rewards. A package of stickers works nicely but you’ll also want to pick up a few bigger items, bouncy balls, matchbox cars, a box of crayons to name a few ideas. Each time the child willing gets on the potty reward them with a sticker regardless of whether they go. At the end of the day reward your child with one of the bigger items for no accidents.

Remove all diapers, training pants, wipes and changing pads from sight. The idea is to let your child think that wearing a diaper and getting changed is no longer an option. Let your child see you as you remove any bigger items that are used for diaper changes such as diaper pails or a changing table.

If your child is a self-dresser empty the drawers of all pants, shorts, footed pj's, or tights. Pack them up and stash them out of sight for a few days.

The fun part! As soon as your child gets up in the morning, take him or her to the bathroom. Remove their diaper or training pants and offer them the toilet. Let them know that you will not be putting a fresh diaper on them and that if they pee there will be nothing to catch it.

Dress them in a t-shirt, for girls a dress is fine, but leave their bottom half bare. If it’s a cool day just make it a long t-shirt so that they aren’t chilled. You want to remind your child to use the bathroom about every 30 minutes. If they have an accident, talk to them again about the fact that they are not wearing anything to catch the pee.

The reason for not putting even pants or tights on the child is to let them feel that there is absolutely nothing against their private areas to absorb the pee. I had previously tried simply switching my daughter to regular panties and taking her to the potty every 30 minutes or so but she was still going in her pants.

It took three days of not wearing any clothing on her lower body for my daughter to be completely potty trained. She now goes when she needs to and over the last 3 months has had only 2 accidents.

If it’s nice weather outside and your child asks to go out and play, explain that because they are not fully dressed that playing outside is not an option that day. Talk to your child about how great it will be when they are using the toilet all the time and wearing big kid underwear and pants. Not being able to play outside because they are not dressed does not need to be a negative thing; turn it into a goal for your child.

Good luck!

for the sister thing, try to get your sister to use your method.... take her potty chair there if she doesn't want to use the real one there

for poops tell her to wipe, drop between her legs (the TP will cover the poop and even try to flush b4 getting up) or ask whyshe crys about poop

does she have her own "special" potty. That helped my daughter when we would go some place else. I would always have to bring her potty and a "special" potty toy with us.

well this is hard that if she wears pull-ups\diapers that a hard thing to being wearing at your sister house wow! and afrid of the toielt flushing she not ready