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Before you even think of coming out, you need to be comfortable with your sexuality, and accept it. If you aren't, then you need to spend some time with yourself, and perhaps read a few articles on the subject (available on the Internet).

If you are, and you want to come out to your family, congratulations. It's not going to be easy - depending on your family's culture/beliefs. For example, if your family is very religious and view homosexuality as a mortal 'sin', you are going to have a tough time. If your family is very homophobic, you are going to have a tough time.

If you are religious, I encourage you to speak to your religious leader who is open with the idea of homosexuality and have him or her speak to your parents.

Every family is different - they will have different reactions. Some are perfectly accepting whereas others actually do throw their children out of their home. You must consider this before you come out. Some people recommend that you wait until you have moved out of your home, have some money stored up before you tell your parents in case the worst does happen, in which case they can't really take your things away or kick you out of your house.

You might want to tell the relative who you know is the most accepting first, before the others so you have some support.

I don't recommend that you tell everyone in a group. I prefer individually because it tends to be easier without having a lot of eyes on you which increases your nervousness and so on.

If you can't say the words, you can write a letter. Remember the important thing is, especially if you are dealing with a 'difficult' family, is to give them time. Give them their own space (you might want to stay the night at a friend's house after you've told them).

You don't have to come out if you don't want to. This is entirely your choice.