man trouble?
my man is a man who listens to his family, they talk about me and he just lets them and not take up for me, but when it comes to my family i always take up for him because he would have it no other way. im sick of being the one getting pick on by his family like im the bad person when i cook everyday for him and wash his clothes and do things that he needs in the bedroom and out....so my question is what should i do ive tried over and over again to tell him dont let little arguments turn into something so big that his family has to be in on it. what should i do? i dont want to leave him alone because i love him, but i cant take this anymore.
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Personally? I think you should put your foot down with him and tell him you've had enough. If he cannot stand up for you to the people he thinks are most important to him in his life -- why is he with you. Does he not love you enough or care about how you feel enough to stand up to them or is he really just that whipped by his family. I'd also remind him you're the one sleeping in his bed with him every night and taking care of him every day. Not, his family. He seriously needs to get his priorities straight. And if he can't stand up and be a man and defend you like you do him -- leave him. You deserve better than that.
It sounds like maybe you need to do a bit less for him. He has arms and legs- he can do the dishes once in a while. Maybe if he sees you value yourself he will more too. (not to say that you don't value yourself but it might come across that way if you are very giving.) You definitely deserve a man who will stick up for you. You do the right thing by him and are there for him so if he is a man (or even just any friend or family member) then should be there for you the same way. You deserve better- maybe talk to him about what it is like for you, or take a step back and observe.
I hope it all works out.