I think I'm gay? I don't really have any sexual attraction towards girls. I do with guys though. I've had girlfriends in the past and alot of them. I had a crush on my best friends boyfriend but I told her I hated him? And at the moment I think I have a crush on my friend I've known for years. I've kinda fantasised about him before. I went to the beach for new years and I saw2 guys I ththought were really attractive. One of them had no shirt on. I'm only 13, turning 14 this year. I'm also going to year 8 this year. And some guys joke about gays in my year. Am I gay? Bisexual? Also when I was dating the girls, I didnt really like them. Relationships didnt last long with them. I kinda really want to tell a close friend, she has nothing against gays and supports them.. should I tell her? Am I gay?
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Make sure to wait and see before you do anything drastic. At that age, you can't be entirely sure, but that doesn't mean what you're feeling doesn't count.
If you are gay, then it's perfectly fine. If you're really panicked, there are several online services for lgbt youth to help you. Don't beat yourself up about it, and dont let ignorant comments change how you feel about yourself. If you're bi or straight thats fine too, just get on with your life!
It's just a phase, don't worry. But hey, if you really want to know, here it is:
• If you like people who are opposite genders, you're straight.
• If you like people who are the same gender as you, you're homosexual (gay).
•If you like BOTH genders, you're bisexual.
But remember, what you're feeling is just a phase. You're still young, you still have time to find your true self.
Oh, and don't discuss this to your friends. People this age are very immature. You can tell your parents if you desire to. BTW, where are you from? Isn't year 8 for 12-13 years old? :)
When you're 16, you'll know for sure. At this point and time, I'd say stay away from porn because it will only lead to harder confusion. You do sound a little curious, but that is normal for that age.
You're not gay.
Gay is something you actually DO, not an attraction.
You might be bisexual (which is perfectly fine) around that age having those feelings is normal, being a teenager is all about discovery and finding your self.