GF of 6 years broke up with me. really didnt have much of a reason besides she didnt have the same feeling anymore. Shes going through alot. It seems like she just really really wants me to leave her alone for right now. its been a month and I havent. Maybe i should. I havent been mean, it just makes her feel bad that I am still here am doing all this nice stuff. I know right now at least shes acting like she really doesnt care. she called herself self centered and selfish and is acting like a *****. thats not really her, I know her. why would she act like such a *****? could it be cause I make her feel bad? if i leave her alone for a while would that be a better option? should I just leave her alone completly. or maybe text her like once a week or something.... she says that she dosent want to hurt me and to give her time. I have tried to date other people and it just dosent feel right.
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I would give her a call and check up on her here and there. I think she would really appreciate it. Even if she doesn't want a relationship, she might get lonely sometimes. And it's always nice to know that you have somebody that cares for you. Good Luck! :)
My late wife split with a guy after 8 years and when she met him she was just desperately escaping an abusive household, and quickly moved in with him. She confused comfort with love.
After 7 years and getting cranky as being introduced as girlfriend he proposed. She accepted blindly, and she fortunately worked out through therapy for another reason, that she never loved the guy. It was no ones fault, it was just the way it was.
Sounds like what she is begging you for is space. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Send her flowers from afar and cards. Try wooing her without seeing her and trying not to force it.
What has caused it? i do not know, have you betrayed her trust? Have you made her feel less comfortable through your actions? Have you been promising something for 6 years and not done it? Is there a reason here?
Has anything happened to her outside of you? Did someone close to her pass away? Is she shutting you out of something that has happened to her? Does she cower from you? Could she have been assaulted or sexually assaulted?
Perhaps it is hormonal? I am not sure what else I can say. Eventually you need to decide when you let go. You need to maintain that you are there for her, but not be in her face about it.
Good luck, hope this helps
yes greg she is feeling that way because your too nice as crazy as it sounds some girls dont dig this. if you two met when you were younger maybe she wants to explore a little and i would give her space and respect that decision, she might just come back and giving her space may be for the better she may realize what she is missing or shewont but either way you have to give her space lether think, let her organize what she has to and i know its hard and it seems unfair that after 6 yrs one can just say give me space and your expected to do just that. but doit and do it with respect. dont show your upset or anything you can not control how she is suppose to feel. sonds to me maybe she wasnt really experienced with men when yo two got together and shed like to find her nitch adn maybe go out and she is entitiled to this as well and maybe it is better this happens now than 6 more yrs down the road, maybe she isnt right for you either. id stop calling her and contacting her and just do you! you see this isnt working your not listening to her request and its not getting better its making you look less attractive toher even though you may be the hottest guy out there.
I have older brothers (5) and they dealt with alot of girl stuff so yeh id say take my advice and if you need to talk or any ?s just email me ok!
hey guy how cud u b so mean... she told u to leave her and u left.. after such a long relation.. how can u leave ur loved one so alone.. as u said she is goin thru a lot .. den b wid her.. show ur care n love.. she needs u idiot.. she is behavin so bcoz may b she doesnt wanna get in pain along wid her.. wanna keep u on safe n happy side.. or may b she is too upset that she cant think of anything else.. whatever it is.. be wid her.. try to get da reasons why she REALLY wanna get away frm u ... its clear she needs u .. so b der n sooth her.. help her in wtever ways u can.. b a true bf... nt like da trend goin on now days..if u were der wid her in gud times den u ought to b in bad times too.. give it a thot dude
i know it hard splitting up, we'v all beent here at some point in our lives, but she is making it clear she wants you to leave her alone and you havent, you'v been doing the opposite and bcoz ur not doing what she wants, i think its made her angry. so leave her alone completly, dont text or call or anything, if she wants to get in touch let her text you and you move on.
good luck x
give her some time. texting her once a week is a good idea, like she's not forgotten. but just to check up on things and ask how she's doing. don't make it a long conversation just short and sweet. and sorry to say time is really what she needs. no saying how long. sorry. don't give up.
Go on with your life, life is to short to wait until she really to get back with u.