I been with my boyfriend about 4 years now. I am 17 and he is 20. He drops me off at work and he goes to his cousin house and drinks all day. I don't drink , and I keep telling him to stop drinking but he does not seems to listen. He keeps getting porn dvd from I dont know where. I found another one today , a total of 6 ! I don't understand. I don't like this at all , but its so hard to leave. Its like I just have him here for dropping me and my sister off at school and work, but its my car. I have no clue what to do. I know I keep saying I am sick of this and when its time for him to go everything changes. I have a myspace and he is using that for the excuse he is doing this ,but even before he did the same thing. He scares me alot when we talk about breaking up he hits me and asking me why ? who the fuc!k am I seeing and he start to cry and I feel bad?
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LEAVE HIM NOW!!!. before **** hits the fan, he is only using whatever emotions he can to persuade you not to leave him..dont believe his bullshit. Imagine if you get pregnant and you are stuck with him forever, would you really want him to be the father of your child, look at the way he treats you, stop thinking he will change he wont ever. you are to good for him find someone better you are young u have alot of life to live dont let him ruin it.
He hits you, he has possession of YOUR car, and he browbeats you. Have you revealed any of this to your parents? If they are paying any part of your car insurance I'm sure they'd like to know if a drunk is driving the car. You dad might be able to wise him up, man to man and get your car back.
Your BF might have been OK 4 years ago, but he's headed in a very bad direction now. Excessive drinking and porn are a dangerous combination. A lot of porn depicts women enjoying being slapped around, dominated, etc., when in reality only the weird ones would. If he's into porn he's feeding his mind these ideas and might escalate acting them out on you. At his age he should be in the military, in college, or on the job. Why does he have all this free time to goof off? Sounds like it's time to get back your car and your life. There are much better specimens out there that would treat you with respect.
you need to tell him that the things that he is doing, is hurting you and that if he keeps it up then you are going to be leaving, and thats final. dont give him an ultimatum, put your foot down and tell him straight up what you want, and if he doesnt respect you enough or love you enough to atleast try and change then hes not worth you time.
your young, and you have so much ahead of you instead of some 20 year old loser that treats you like crap.. be strong and put your foot down.
hes only doing that cause he knows that he can walk all over you and you say your going to leave but you dont, thats how he knows what he can do to you and the things you will take. your 17 hes 20, you can get him put in jail for the way he treats you. make him listen, and if he doesnt then leave, thats not a healthy relationship. hes just using you cause he knows your always going to be around lingering no matter what he does.
dont feel bad, thats exactly what he wants. he knows he has you played in his game.
look we all want someone who cares us and who loves us
and not who exploits us
so i think u should leave him